NO BUT WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS FORGET THAT HANJI ORIGINALLY HATED TITANS AND THE REASON HANJI STARTED TO STUDY THEM WAS BECAUSE HE/SHE/THEY KICKED A FUCKING TITAN HEAD AND WAS LIKE “HOLY SHIT I SHOULDN’T BE ABLE TO KICK THIS”???
HANJI HATED TITANS
Adults teach you to stand up for yourself and fight for what you believe in until what you believe in is different than what they believe in.
truer words have never been spoken
I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.
..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.
“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”
I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away..
..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.
David Wong, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person (via violetmaps)
lets leave comic sans valentines in 2013 please
You’re totally right. This year we need something different, something new, something fresh:
I feel like mainstream society’s perceptions of “healthy” relationships are so dangerous, toxic, and, ultimately, responsible for many missed opportunities.
For the most part, things are pretty much grouped into three extremely rigid areas: familial relationships, which must consist of strong, timeless bonds; friendships, which are viewed as necessary yet only healthy in certain amounts and to certain degrees; and sexual-romantic relationships, which are prized above all else as the golden tickets of relationships.
Maybe I just like to throw a wrench into things, but I feel that by following these guidelines some people are missing chances for meaningful relationships.
Think about what you might miss when forced to comply to Relationship Standards and Terms of Agreement:
It’s limiting how much you can love your friends, yet demanding you love your family. Concurrently, it’s telling you that if you care too much about your friends you’re weird, but if you don’t care enough you’re emotionless. If you don’t eventually end up with a partner you’re missing out, but if you date someone on the internet you’re lacking the quintessence of a relationship. Sex* is necessary, but so is romance*, and you must get both from the same person, at the same time. (*Footnote: while absolutely necessary, both are only healthy in moderation.)
All family members are on this level, all friends are on this level, your romantic-sexual relationship at the tippy top. There is no variation. This relationship must meet this criteria. It must. No mixing and matching with other relationships. No half-way points. No passing go. Do not collect $200. No, your happiness does not matter.
Doesn’t this seem ridiculous? I’m exhausted just thinking about it.
Here’s a different way of thinking about things: If someone makes you feel fulfilled, in any way that vacillates a positive state of being, your relationship with them is good. Likewise, if someone makes you feel shitty, you are under no obligations to care for them.
You shouldn’t be worrying about whether or not you’re too close to a person, or care about them too much. Different people have different emotional and sexual needs, in different capacities, and how those needs are satisfied are equally as varied. If everyone involved is satisfied with the situation, go for it. Don’t worry if your best friend is crossing into romantic territory. Who is to say what is romantic and non-romantic territory? You wanna hold your best friend’s hand? Hold your best friend’s hand. Do it.
Don’t miss an opportunity to connect with people because of preconceived notions. Don’t feel obligated to care. Forget the hierarchy, forget the rules. It’s too exhausting to remember them all, anyway.
